Anonymous sent: How do you date somebody who is cis? I'm nb and I don't have a ton of dating experience because I am so uncomfortable trying to explain who I am to new people. Did he know before you started dating that you were nb or was that something you brought up later?

And did you tell him and how did you do that. I’m sorry to bug you with personal questions I just read your posts about your boyfriend and feel a little (unfairly) jealous that you found somebody who seems so accepting and perfect.

Hello hello, dear heart. There’s actually no reason to be jealous here. I’m only out to a handful of people away from the internet & my boyfriend is not one of them.

We’ve been dating for about 8 months now & gender issues have only recently come up. Whenever we talk about gender things I basically pray he doesn’t say something beyond redemption the entire time. So far, he’s been incredibly open & understanding.

He still trips on some things sometimes (like calling trans people “transgenders” which is cringeworthy, but he’s been actively trying to adjust) & we haven’t talked about more complex gender issues in depth. But I’m trying to steer him in the right direction with all of this & I honestly do feel that one day I’ll be able to tell him about my genderfluidity.

The thing is, you can’t really know if someone is going to be accepting of how you identify & it’s okay to be cautious. Feeling scared is absolutely understandable. If you are interested in someone, I highly suggest gradually bringing these things up & gaging their reactions. I’ve found that it’s the easiest way to know who you can trust & stay safe.

Posted 10 hours ago with 2 notes

after all the times i let myself believe i mean more to people than i actually do i will never again trust myself to make that judgment hoooly shit this hurts

[ songs of rain ]

forgiveness in the third chord,
much like silence or the moment
artemis pulls the arrow free,
thanks the buck for his sacrifice.

lightning in my lungs.
saltwater in my lungs.
i, storm,
will rage & pass on.

fuck is such a dirty word
even when written in calligraphy,
curled & swirling like your tongue,
disguised as something beautiful
so you won’t know i want you to break me

it felt like the earth was splitting in two

in my dream somebody told me that ghosts will posses bodies of living people & sometimes they become so convinced they’re actually alive that they forget they’re only inhabitants.


I wish none of you were sad

(Source: krakenguts)