And did you tell him and how did you do that. I’m sorry to bug you with personal questions I just read your posts about your boyfriend and feel a little (unfairly) jealous that you found somebody who seems so accepting and perfect.
Hello hello, dear heart. There’s actually no reason to be jealous here. I’m only out to a handful of people away from the internet & my boyfriend is not one of them.
We’ve been dating for about 8 months now & gender issues have only recently come up. Whenever we talk about gender things I basically pray he doesn’t say something beyond redemption the entire time. So far, he’s been incredibly open & understanding.
He still trips on some things sometimes (like calling trans people “transgenders” which is cringeworthy, but he’s been actively trying to adjust) & we haven’t talked about more complex gender issues in depth. But I’m trying to steer him in the right direction with all of this & I honestly do feel that one day I’ll be able to tell him about my genderfluidity.
The thing is, you can’t really know if someone is going to be accepting of how you identify & it’s okay to be cautious. Feeling scared is absolutely understandable. If you are interested in someone, I highly suggest gradually bringing these things up & gaging their reactions. I’ve found that it’s the easiest way to know who you can trust & stay safe.